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SOLOLA BIEN RT – ARE PARENTS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE KNIFE CRIME EPIDEMIC? S2 EP11

March 7, 2020


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  • Reply Solola Bien March 4, 2020 at 8:24 pm

    Les sous-titres français sont disponibles !

  • Reply Bij King March 4, 2020 at 8:45 pm

    Children need healthy, secure, loving environments to be emotionally resilient.

  • Reply Emi lala March 4, 2020 at 8:46 pm

    Toboyi kuluna mais muana esengeli ayeba ko se défendre yemoko. Mais soki danger ya solo ezali muana tika, kima mbangu. Mpona ba crimes bana baza responsable ya ba choix nabango. Eza makambo ya pauvreté mpe ya ba fréquentations ya bana. Kozala single parent elakisite que muana akobeba. Bana mibal à partir ya adolescence bakomaka mitu makasi mpo bazokanisa "nakoli nakoki kosala eloko nalingi". Soki muana aza influençable mpe aza naba camarades ya malonga te, akobeba.
    Eza na ba camarades esengeli bopekisa bana nabino batambola nabango. Nayebi eza cruel mais ekobikisa bana. Soki muana aza na ba family problems ekoki ko affect life mais nga nako blame baboti te soki muana akomi kotshuba tshuba baninga na balabala. It's too much.

  • Reply Ms Gladis March 4, 2020 at 9:03 pm

    Tresor was making fair point of holding children accountable sorry vraiment I kept interrupting him

  • Reply BM InsPower March 4, 2020 at 9:05 pm

    Love u guys, watching from South Africa, please guys try mix English and lingala eza eloko ya ba congolais alors mua langila pe. just a side note, the lady with the yellow plante elle est souvent agite she reacts emotionally in many shows please calmer mua mukie, but we love y'all guys keep it up

  • Reply north finest March 4, 2020 at 9:07 pm

    Is Gladice normal? So it's like if someone is out with his siblings and they get attacked so you should run and let your family die on the road ohhh wow so she basically just let everyone know if she is out with her kids or friends and a situation occurs she will leave you to die bon bravo

  • Reply Eloim Takuta March 4, 2020 at 9:12 pm

    FIRST OF ALL BIG UP FRANKOS !!!!!! SPOKE SOO MUCH SENSE AND BACKED IT WITH EXPERIENCE & FACTS.

    Secondly, the reality is that parents are partially to blame, because parents need to be following up their children’s activities, their whereabouts, who their surroundings are, Connect with their children through positive communication, sometimes just listen to your kids, encourage them to get involved in positive distractions such as football, boxing, swimming, dancing. And yes I agree with Gladis, single parents needs to work 2times harder when raising children alone. We will not ignore the fact that some children really just don’t listen.

  • Reply Anne-Emilie Yama March 4, 2020 at 9:19 pm

    They failed to cover social determinants as it plays a huge role in things like this . Factors such as: environment, social class , education all play a huge fact in things like joining a gang , knife crime nothing to do with coming from one single parent household. You are more prune to be in involved in gag if the environment you live in is dangerous. If you live in a neighbourhood whereby all you see is drugs , gangs etc etc you are more likely to be influenced by your surroundings which any good home can easily be a foreign language to a child . If the environment is toxic then the likelihood of producing a good fruit is limited , some mentioned living in rough areas in London , a child can a time translate it as a norm to sell drugs, steal , kill because it's his norm in his neighbourhood

    Environment, Social class and education plays a huge part in this and they failed to see that . They not only stigmatised single household they discriminated and incriminating everyone that comes from a single family home.

    l have to agree with Trésor there is this negative connotations that has been placed onto single parent household more than any other group . I think it’s very unfair , some have lost their husband therefore find themselves rising a child alone , some dads don't want shit do with their child even when mum reach out , some got out a silence toxic relationship for the sake of their child , some were raped and have choose to keep it so for the world to always place this negative connotations that they do is unfair .
    New Zealand shares the highest number of single mother's yet it's deemed one of the safest country to live in why ? Because the environment all around mankind is not as toxic or dangerous as life in London .
    People want that fast life and are willing to do anything for it.

    Single or two parents human at some point in time will pick what they want in life . There’s a time in mankind life where we know right from wrong therefore most not always need a third party to remind us that stealing for example is wrong . You choose to want to steal well unless you have that Kleptomania illness whereby you cannot restrain yourself ,but even so that if the condition it’s not so out of control you can manage it.
    Those kid’s they are talking about aren’t the one's whose brain is developing and in needs constant nurturing those are like adolescents
    I’m sorry ,but Trésor made the most sense , Robert basically validated Tresor' point

    Dude worded it differently it's not lack of commitment that stopped him that could easily have become his religion if he choose to role with what he identify as bad not because mum and dad said so ,but from what himself he gathered was wrong really it was he choose as Tresor pointed out in his argument Robert analysed that it wasn't right so went the other way he knew the ins and outs and from a young age he knew that life wasn’t for him . He could have easily disobeyed his parent and dealt with the consequences later on when he snuck back in the house whatever the case maybe ,but he choose not to because he knew right from wrong something doesn't necessarily need verbal preaching . We here placing blame left right centre , yet not enough is been done . There’s a huge inequality even across the health and social care field and things concerning minorities especially blacks and caribbean are overlooked by the White man .

  • Reply esther sam March 4, 2020 at 9:19 pm

    I agree with tresor sur ce point ! Alobi bien

  • Reply Chelsea Takizala March 4, 2020 at 9:46 pm

    I am totally fine with the episodes being one hour or longer just saying🙃

  • Reply jamal wawou March 4, 2020 at 10:28 pm

    Nice points , although in a fist fight you have to defend some times your manhood 😂. But besides than nice episode !!!

  • Reply T_challa Tha God March 4, 2020 at 10:28 pm

    Lol bana lelo bayokaka te. I don't see Tresor ever shacking up with no one but a traditional Congolese woman

  • Reply Enock March 4, 2020 at 10:33 pm

    Such a good topic but no one mentioned big factor such as poverty social media , technology…..

  • Reply T_challa Tha God March 4, 2020 at 10:39 pm

    South African raised here and as much I understand the rationale behind the crime in my country some of it come off as baseless excuses. For example, majority of the perpetrators are either born after the end of apartheid or were fairly young to say they have experienced oppression. Meaning by the time they were adults they had at minimum all they needed to make the right choices in life.

    My question for the UK is, all these kids live in a welfare state with government grants. Why are kids killing and robbing for sport? Certainly not because they are hungry or unemployed. As black people worldwide we need to stop making faint excuses as to why we are so disenfranchised. Single parent household can be a confounding factor but it's not the not the causative factor.

  • Reply Ras Tafari March 4, 2020 at 11:15 pm

    I think next season, it will be good if you invite members of the older generation (parents over 40+) to hear their viewpoints and opinion on matters, It was nice on one of the episodes you where you invited ba mama to voice their opinions but it will also be nice to see more of that on the next season to see also ba papa on their regularly. Also just a suggestion, you should just have two mics, one for the host and another one given to the panellist when they want to speak, so to reduce people coughs Gladis talking over another person. also I think you should give the viewers the option to pick a question to be discussed next on the show.

  • Reply Kay M.M March 4, 2020 at 11:27 pm

    Pour une fois je suis d'accord avec Trésor

  • Reply LaBelleAfricaine March 4, 2020 at 11:33 pm

    Unfortunately a lot of Congolese parents do not take the time to be in their children's lives the way they need to. Let's be real about the part that they play. I will come back on my previous point I made in another video which was that they let the boys really do whatever they want because aza mobali but the girls will be locked in the house. Okotuna mwana journee naye ata te. Do they go to teacher parent conferences? Do they know the names of their children's friends? Do you at least have the phone number of those friends parents in case of something? Ultimately it is true that the child does make the choice to choose a path, but the parent must do everything they can to prevent the worst case scenario because whether the child listens or not YOU gave birth to them, it is your responsibility which is why when something does happen the school looks for the parent, the police looks for the parent, regardless of the choice the child makes ezongelaka ba parents. C'est mieux de prévenir que guérir as they say in French. The problem is that Congolese parents need to start having DIALOGUE with their kids, make it SAFE in the house to speak with you, how do you expect children to listen when they are even scared to talk to you? Congolese parents think that koyokela mwana eza komikitisa eza neti bazo bungisa pouvoir tokimukolo na bango which is not the case. Po tomata tokita mwana jamais ako bota yo maman to papa. All of this is because once again the Congolese community fails to see some of the good things they need to ADAPT to in the western world in order to evolve with the kids that were born and raised there. It's nice to have roots and have a culture but NOT at the expense of losing your child. Toza na Congo te, tokoli ndenge bango bakoli te, I don't understand why Congolese parents even African parents in general cannot understand that you cannot raise your child exactly the way you were in Africa life is completely different here and you should invest time in your children in order to BETTER COMMUNICATE so that you can understand each other and work together. Yes life is hard for immigrants and you have to work hard here to survive but it's up to you as the parent to figure out how to juggle that. If you cannot help with homework for your child pay for a tutor, instead of leaving the kids home alone get a babysitter or put the kids in after school activities like sports etc to keep them off the streets and busy. There are programs that the government has if you don't have the money, talk to the school they have resources. You need to make that effort as a parent, you make sacrifices for your kids that's what it comes down to.

  • Reply Mich Ntuaros March 5, 2020 at 12:55 am

    I feel like all of you are agreed with Tresor in the different way and added few things he missed to say
    Sometimes we are blaming the parents for our own actions and decisions because we have the basic education from our family and our parents will tell us to do good things and to have good friends but because we think we know more than them we’ll not do what they’re telling us so there’s not point to blame them because they’re doing the best to keep us save but us young people we think like they’re blocking us to live our life.

  • Reply patchely yanga March 5, 2020 at 1:04 am

    I think ya Tresor was right 👌🏾🤗

  • Reply free to speak my mind March 5, 2020 at 1:43 am

    Great topic again today.

  • Reply Erika Luamba March 5, 2020 at 1:57 am

    I would suggest to solola bien team that for some subjects, you bring professionnals in the panel. Certain things cannot be explained only based on the panelist experience especially in huge and important subjects like this one. I am sure there are congolese psychologist, social worker, pediatrician in the UK that can bring their input in this kind of topics.

  • Reply Herve Etombo March 5, 2020 at 2:02 am

    Bozo loba nzela moko, biso pe anglais to yebi te, bo tika mutu asilisi idée na ye après moko na moko a intervenir, idée ya débat eza bien mais makele oyo aloba, ba oyo ba kata

  • Reply Elegance A L’Excellence March 5, 2020 at 2:08 am

    Christian is sooo good with Words lol 😂 A true Congolese man ! Maloba sucre lol 😂 NAOMI CAMPBELL akosa biso, Po Nicole ! CHOCOLAT CHAUD 😂😂😂🥳🥳 XD Im finished 😂 !!

  • Reply New Life 14 March 5, 2020 at 2:16 am

    I agree with Dymond.

  • Reply Believe GB March 5, 2020 at 2:27 am

    Unfortunately I am going to have to agree with Tresor today ! We all have a choice to make in life! The truth is that most kids these days don't listen and that is a fact! They believe they know better than their parents which is really stupid! Franc trying to discredit women by saying that single mums usually would not have enough time to take care of kids, that's a total lie!!! Having 2 parents doesn't guarantee anything as kids could still turn out to be very bad! Being physically present in the house doesn't make you a great parent unless you are truly involved in your kids's lives. Yes a good foundation plays a big part in a child's life but the choice, the decision to honour that foundation and apply all its values, still goes back to the child! No parent would want the downfall of her/his child therefore the parents should not always be blamed for their children''s choice!

  • Reply Erika Luamba March 5, 2020 at 3:00 am

    First of all, for one of the rare time, I did agree with Trésor to a certain extent. Children, but mostly teenagers are individuals and are the one that make their own choice in front of a situation. For example, you will see kids in the best private school that come from the most stable families being the biggest drug dealers. We always have a choice and yes, some kids really don't listen and sometimes they have to go through their own choice's consequences to get the reality check they need. Sadly, it can be death.

    However, parents also have a huge role because they are the one instaurating the base in a child life as Frankos said. It cannot ensure 100 % that the child will always take safe choices, however it can prevent a lot. The problem is a lot of african parents think that provinding for the basics needs such as food, bed and roof is educating a child. No it is way more than that and this brings me again to the Maslow's hierarchy of needs that most of our parents haven't reached completely (not always their fault though)… Also, to push on the environment a child grow up in : having both parents is really important. Of course, not because you grew up in a single parent home that you will automatically fail, no. Some parents are widow and do their best. But, in general, we have to understand that everything God does is good and relevant. There is a purpose why the family unit needs a dad and a mom because the male AND the female figure are both important in the education of someone. There are things a women cannot do as a mom and vice versa for the man. Opennig a parenthesis, I want to go back to the genesis here, the problem in our community is that a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons : back in the days, it was arranged marriages or girls wanting to get out of their parents home; today, people fall under social pressure, they want big fatty weddings to throw on youtube, c'est le concours de qui fait le plus gros mariage, they want a status to show up on instagram, etc, etc, etc. When you marry for the wrong reason, you are setting yourself up for either divorce or a toxic relationship, a toxic environment where you will bring other human beings (children). This can be really damaging and how a child is suppose to be a stable and accomplished individual in the society if the environement he was brought in started with a wrong foundation. The family unit is the beginning of a society, therefore, we have to do better on how and why we create them. If we are not ready for marriage or to have children, we need to wait, prepare ourselves for it and be carefull.

    So, when Tresor said he did not fail even if he was in a single parent home, yes it's not the main reason of failure, but it can play a huge role in many aspects of life. And my big brother Trésor, it's not because it was not your case that it will be for everybody. I will invite you to start looking at all the factors that make up an individual environnement especially while growing up. On top of that, there is the personnality. You look like you have a strong one and are able to not be influenced easily but it's not that for everybody mostly in the teenage years.

    On another note, this topic is huge and there's a lot that must be considered to understand it. With that being said, koodos to all the team !

  • Reply Norebi Mpibu March 5, 2020 at 5:37 am

    Suis d’accord avc tresor

  • Reply Valentin Lotika March 5, 2020 at 5:40 am

    Frankos has alot of good points but I also completely agree with Tresor

  • Reply Emmanuel Kangi March 5, 2020 at 5:45 am

    Haha there should be a cursus on letting to let someone speak till they are finished 😂, or everybody should have a 📝 and writing the point they are not agreeing on. I’m also agreeing with tresor, frankos and ya robert and dymund.

  • Reply Benedicte Tshimanga March 5, 2020 at 6:56 am

    Gladis je t’aime bien et je suis Souvent d’accord avec ce que tu dis MAIS j’ai remarqué qu’à chaque fois que Trésor essaye de donner son avis, tu n’arrêtes pas de l’interrompre. Même quand les autres te disent de lui laisser finir, tu continues de parler. Parfois c’est insupportable .Quand toi tu parles tu n’aime pas qu’on te laisse pas finir. C’est un peu dommage.

  • Reply Inês Mavatikua March 5, 2020 at 8:12 am

    Ms Gladis, u r getting in my nerves man. U keep interrupting people and that’s so rude! Let people talk and you are going to get your change as well to talk. Even Christian was annoyed with you man. Did you not see his face at end when people came for you keeping for interrupting ya Tresor? You are a mother. Be an example.

  • Reply tresor image March 5, 2020 at 11:05 am

    A Very emotional episode for me after losing so much friends through murder via Knife crime gun Shot. So many young people are losing their life on the street because bad decision, These stories of gun & Knife violence are all too common among young people . The gun violence epidemic disproportionately ravages young people, particularly young people of color. In short, gun violence is shattering a generation.

    Young people are not simply victims of gun violence in this country, they are among the leading voices calling for change to the nation’s weak gun laws and deadly gun culture.
    These young people do not just want to reform gun laws—they are also demanding that the issue of gun violence be examined as part of a complex and intersectional web of issues that also include community disinvestment, criminal justice reform, and policing. They are advocating not only for solutions to make schools safer from mass shootings but also for holistic and intersectional solutions that will help make our communities safer.

  • Reply Naomie Lumbu March 5, 2020 at 11:35 am

    I think Ya Tresor is right but Robert also he is right. This is maybe our own choice but parents if they are fighting together they can also help their child to make the right decision . Prayers of a mother or a father can save a lost child

  • Reply Effra Official March 5, 2020 at 12:01 pm

    I like Tresor’s point so much man😂. Today we all tend to blame patents without knowing that in Europe the living system itself does allow you to in total control of the children.

  • Reply Christivi Nswana March 5, 2020 at 12:28 pm

    will y'all leave Gladis alone damn, aza kaka mutu, the rest of us 😂😂

  • Reply Flora Linda March 5, 2020 at 3:40 pm

    Sometimes I can't understand what you are saying, you're too loud. Could you please wait until you finished with one point before discussing?

  • Reply Magdala Edropia March 5, 2020 at 7:34 pm

    I actually agree with @tresor image.
    Yes our parents can instill good manners and education in children buy at the end of the day that child is entitled to a decision on the playgrounds, parents can’t control.

    Parents can not do so much , the decision still lies on the individual. Bébé Kutu même quand bazo pekisa ye eloko you will see resistance.

  • Reply Micheline Kabamba March 5, 2020 at 7:40 pm

    Thank you so much Ya Tresor

  • Reply Patricia M bahati March 5, 2020 at 8:11 pm

    Tresor had a great point but was interrupted a lot. Wasn’t fair. This show has to give everyone their turn. It was a nice topic but disorganized with the patents.

  • Reply ivette official March 5, 2020 at 10:31 pm

    The reason why i love Gladis is that she never changed her opinion no matter what. At the end of the day she's always right ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️no Gladis no show

  • Reply Fens Mavula March 6, 2020 at 10:08 am

    Non non je suis d’accord avec Tresor. Il faut arrêter de blâmer les parents pour tout. On parle de Less Brown de plein de gens coming from poor environnements, coming from single parents families oyo ba beba te. Vérité eza ke to botaka bana mais to botaka mitema na bango te

  • Reply Fens Mavula March 6, 2020 at 10:09 am

    C’est ça aussi les statistiques ont peut faire dire ce qu’on veut aux statistiques hein

  • Reply Fens Mavula March 6, 2020 at 10:10 am

    Gladys elle est vraiment pas

  • Reply Fens Mavula March 6, 2020 at 10:11 am

    Les ados sont aussi spéciaux et ont le sait je trouve que Gladys devrait modérer ses propos

  • Reply Fens Mavula March 6, 2020 at 10:15 am

    Pour un sujet comme ça il fallait prendre des parents plus expérimentés. Je doute qu’aucun d’eux ait déjà élevé des adolescents jusqu’à l’âge adultes. C’est pas relevant

  • Reply Merveille Kabamba March 6, 2020 at 1:00 pm

    Leave TRESSOR To speak!! Jheeez man. Nah This One I'm In The Middle. Yes UTS Parents But how do you explain kids to among from good two parent household become a gangbanger. There's Other Statistics too. we can't just put everything on the parents. Statistics are not 100% valid. It is dependending on researcher. It also depends on the areas and the amount of people they studied to the research. Overall its both parents and chdren who has the responsibility. Yeah ain't going to lie gladis stop interrupting please sis.

  • Reply Asnath Mpembe March 6, 2020 at 1:59 pm

    Can we have an episode where there’s no interruptions from Gladys please it’s so hard to watch sometimes. I get your passionate about your opinions but so is everyone else n they deserve to also be heard same way they allow you to “land” let others land too! Thanks you

  • Reply Rose naomi March 6, 2020 at 2:46 pm

    Well said Ya Tresor 👏🏽👏🏽👊🏽

  • Reply MyriAutumn March 6, 2020 at 3:09 pm

    I am very sorry, but can you PLEASE stop interrupting each other 🙏🏾

  • Reply Mika Wata March 6, 2020 at 10:02 pm

    Francos you made that decision to listen your parents advice

  • Reply Christy Choma March 7, 2020 at 9:30 am

    Gladys olekisi you keep interrupting people that’s not civil from you

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