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Openness (Why it is Crucial to Be Open) – Teal Swan

August 18, 2019


Hello there. You came into this life as an extension, an expression of source energy
in the physical dimension. Because of this it could be said that
you are an art piece, a creation of God’s, but as an extension of God, you are God. So you are both the creator and the created. In neither the creator or the creation
is meant to be suppressed. When you live in a state of openness you are allowing the art piece,
a view to be painted across this world. You’re not restricting yourself. You are also not restricting source itself. Because of this, it is by far
the more in alignment way to be and it can be said that walking the spiritual path
is walking the path of complete openness. When the child is born the child
has no thoughts of suppressing itself. The child has no secrets from the world. The child does not secluded itself
or exclude people from its heart. The child is honest. The child is like this
because it is the most natural way to be. The child falls its emotional guidance system
up until the point where it is taught not to. And when you fall your emotional guidance system, what you find is state of constriction is
painful and therefore it is not natural. What you find is that the state is
openness feels emotionally good and therefore, it is our natural state. We can think of constriction
as the opposite of the openness. But a whole range of things falls
into the category of constriction. We are constricted when we keep secrets. We are constricted when we tone ourselves
down in order to be accepted by others. We are constricted when we
do things we don’t want to do. We are constricted when we close our minds
that are no longer open to new ideas and new possibilities for truth. We are constricted when we are not honest. We are constricted when we don’t share. We are constructed when we isolate ourselves. We are constricted when we see
love in terms of finite quantity, and so we reserve it only
for some people and not others. We are constricted
when we do not allow ourselves to admit to and go after our needs and our wants. We are constricted
when we do not express our emotions. We are constricted when we try to fit
ourselves into a life dictated by society instead of carving out a life to fit ourselves. These are just a few examples of
thousands of examples of constriction. To live a life with construction is to
not let the light of your eternal being shine through your physical existence. The first thing to suffer is your emotional life. You’ll start to not enjoy the life you’re living. The second thing to suffer is your body. You can’t stay in the state of construction for long. Because you’re preventing the source energy
from flowing through your body. The part of the body that perhaps suffers the
most from construction is the heart and lungs. Many of the heart and breathing
problems that we experience are ultimately the result of restricting the self. But constriction can also give rise
to a whole host of other ailments. Such as stomach disorders, acne,
allergies, eating disorders, arthritis, boldness, blood pressure
problems, bowel problems, yeast infection, varicose veins,
cancers and tumors, speech problems, injury is
associated with the body in the joints prostate problems and ovarian
problems to name a few. After we’ve been here on the
planet for a little while we begin to feel as if there are consequences
for being ourselves and for being open. We begin to fear exposure. And so, the one power that we have
is what I call self-containment. We know that it’s a choice for us to expose or to not expose ourselves. So most of us exercise our free will by choosing to close ourselves down, by choosing to be invisible. We choose to hide ourselves
instead of expose ourselves. And sometimes we hide
ourselves from ourselves. This makes us feel as if we
are not powerless victims. But it is a decision that
will kill us in the end. You came into this life in order
to be the full expression of yourself. You are source playing itself
out in the physical body. And each body is a unique
expression of source. Upon coming into this physical dimension, you “chose” to become that full expression, that unique expression. And so to restrict that expression in anyway is to disallow the very purpose for you coming
into this dimension in the first place. When we do things like keep secrets it makes us feel powerful
instead of powerless. But it is to be exclusive in an universe which is all inclusive, more than
all inclusive, it is all one. Your stories are not yours.
They are everyone’s. Your secret is not yours.
They are everyone’s. Your pain is not yours.
It is everyone’s. Your joyous is not yours.
It is everyone’s. To keep secrets, it’s
not understand the fact that you are everything and everyone. When we are not open and
honest and do not share, it makes us feel safe instead of unsafe. As we said before, people think
they’re safe and they’re invisible. But to live your life at the
mercy of fear is no kind of life. It is only a half life. We may fear what others will think of us. Or, we may fear that what we tell
others will be used against us. But I can tell you that if you are
comfortable with being yourself fully, you would not care
what they think about you. It would not be possible to be
embarrassed in the first place if you were not
indoctrinated with the idea that there are good ways
to be and bad ways to be. People who fear exposing
themselves without exception were raised in environments where
there was a heavy atmosphere of shame. It would be impossible to be embarrassed if you are not first
ashamed of being yourself. And the person does not become
ashamed of being themselves and thus they are exposed to someone
who convinces them that they should be. And as our spiritual practice progresses, it becomes more and more obvious that anything a person could do to us does not compare to
the pain of constriction when we impose restriction on our own being. There’s an old Chinese poem that explains a very deep spiritual truth. It is that an arrow can only pierce something that resists the arrow. If we were to instead become like water, an arrow shot into the water would not even make a dent. Instead it would be absorbed
into the expanse of the water. When we live in a state of constriction, when we keep secrets, when we live our lives as
anything other than ourselves, we are resistant to the very
things that we are afraid of and so they can hurt us. We are resisting the arrow when we’re living in a state of
closeness instead of openness. If we were to become like water to live in a state of complete
openness, sharing honesty, the expanse of us would absorb anything that came up against us. Nothing could make a dent. If you are completely open it’s true that you give
all your ammunition away. But when you give your ammunition away
it can’t be used on you. Some people feel as of being open and
sharing oneself over the world completely is a tasteless form of public exhibitionism. The deeper than that,
it is a form of narcissism. This is a profoundly out of alignment
point of view from source perspective seeing as how you came
into this planet in the first place to uniquely express yourself fully. This is the only way we can achieve self-awareness is if we are open with ourselves
and if we’re open to the world. Whats more than that, our only way to learn
from one another is to express ourselves. For the people who hold this
belief or raised in environments for the only socially acceptable way of being is conformity to a social ideal. Social etiquette often calls for extreme measures of self constriction. But we need to understand that if we have
an idea of how someone should behave, we are living our standards be dictated by
someone who came before us, someone who had power
over others who decided that if other people behaved in a certain
way it would make them feel happier. It is a former social control
that we have bought into, and we now reinforce. We need to ask ourselves who decided what was tasteful and
what was tasteless and why, why is public exhibitionism is not OK
especially in a universe where we came to this physical life specifically to be
unrestricted expressions of our true selves, why should we act in a certain way and who decides what that
certain acceptable way to act is. The idea that sharing oneself
completely is narcissism is a sad idea at best. You came into this physical dimension and you are restricted to the one
perspective that you called by your name. You will be with you for
the rest of your life. This means you are the love of your life. You just don’t know it yet. Self-love is not narcissism. Most people do not understand narcissism. And I can promise you I’ll be doing
a video on narcissism coming up soon. But the idea that there is
something inherently wrong with being self focused, self
congratulating, self celebrating is not an idea which comes
from source itself. It’s an idea that was brought
down from human to human. The idea that its virtuous to forget yourself,
and that it is selfish to care about yourself and to think highly enough about yourself
to be driven to show yourself off to others is an idea that is imposed on us
by the people who believe in the virtue of selflessness and who
rejected us for who we were. These people believe in humility,
a lethal humility. They spent a good deal of time trying
to make us believe that it was selfish, and to be selfish was to be bad,
and to be bad was to not deserve love, so are only way to get love was to deny ourselves
and restrict ourselves and to become constricted. The idea that you should
constrict yourself in any way and not celebrate your own life
and not show it off to others is an idea that originates
directly from self hate. Bottom line is
to live a life that is in alignment, to live a life where
you are able to be healthy, to live a life that you enjoy, “openness” is the order of the day. We have a choice at all moments of the day,
the choice is to be open or to be closed. This is why one of the most
beneficial exercises you can do is ask yourself throughout the day,
“How am I being closed right now? How am i constricting myself or
letting myself be constricted? And make the necessary changes in favor of
openness based on the answer you receive. A state of openness is the real state of freedom. Everything that we do in our lives is a
creative expression of our inner selves. Anything you do to constrict
yourself or anyone else is to restrict the flow of source
energy through your body. And you can’t live like that for long. It’s important that we understand that to commit to a spiritual
life and spiritual practice is to commit to a path of openness. Have a good week. Subtitles by the Amara.org community

100 Comments

  • Reply Lena Huerta January 6, 2016 at 4:40 am

    Hey, I think I am a very open and authentic person, I have a huge and warm family.

    But, how should I deal with the judgement of the people around, my town is extremely conservative!! and how to deal with the pain of being seen as "less" for being authentic, than being respected and admired for being what society expects from me? I know girls that just do what their parents and church says and they look super happy, with wonderful lives.

    Is it really worthy to find my higher conscious than to just follow what society dictates?

    I need to feel better about this to continue, if somebody has some info, please let me know :/. Thank you! 🙂

  • Reply Jessica Hubbard January 15, 2016 at 2:54 am

    No wonder I like Miley Cyrus!

  • Reply Agata Polejowska January 25, 2016 at 8:24 pm

    Thank you 🙂

  • Reply Sara Di Felice January 31, 2016 at 12:00 am

    I LOVE YOU AND THANK YOU! 🙂 SYNCHRONICITY

  • Reply gabi ohnenachname February 21, 2016 at 8:03 pm

    Thank you, I appreciate you making this video. You are right, nice to have heard this. The question that remains is, how do I start living it. I want to, I understand all the reasons logically. But I just can't. I feel too vulnerable and … I can't. ♡

  • Reply Notorious Ak February 26, 2016 at 5:16 pm

    All of this time, bedsore containment; where am I now that the music has faded?

  • Reply Elijah Laurie March 8, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    so beautiful!!

  • Reply Shane Recka March 18, 2016 at 4:48 am

    Amazing video!!

  • Reply Ronald Duane Cochran March 20, 2016 at 12:59 pm

    Why would God "restrict" or constrict ITSELF ? …………or HIM-SELF ……or HER-SELF ………..or THEM-SELVES ………….
    Why would God ……punish IT-SELF ?

  • Reply Ronald Duane Cochran March 20, 2016 at 1:01 pm

    Why would God confuse IT-SELF ? ……..or kill IT-SELF ?

  • Reply Ronald Duane Cochran March 20, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    Do humans as God always get the experience called life ? …………..Yes ! …….then there is nothing to "learn" and also nothing to not "learn" . There is no advise to be given and no advise to be taken and nothing to understand or nothing to not understand.

  • Reply Ronald Duane Cochran March 20, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    There is nothing "wrong" with killing ones self or with killing any other self, since the other "selves" are really "you" anyways ……….with to do with whatever "you" want to do with ?

  • Reply Ronald Duane Cochran March 20, 2016 at 1:09 pm

    But, I do agree with what Teal is saying here too ……………

  • Reply Ronald Duane Cochran March 20, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    How can "SOURCE" do ………………..SELF HATE ?

    And , how can there be anything …………..other than SOURCE ?

  • Reply Quinton Allen March 20, 2016 at 8:20 pm

    My secrets in no way make me feel powerful. This was good to watch though cause right now I got the feeling I was fucking-up again. Bruce Lee made similar comments about water "becoming the cup" and it may have cost him his life. I don't particularly want to die. The rejection in my life was pretty much caused by everything you said but are there not varying degrees of secrets? Timing, as has been said, is everything, so I just need to pick my time. I love you.

  • Reply Salma Chikhaoui March 23, 2016 at 4:22 am

    ? But how to be open like so under all the rules , controls and the limited beliefs

  • Reply Manitoba Mel April 13, 2016 at 3:21 pm

    Thank you for this…. I listen to this often as a reminder. My openness is a heavy door, this advice chips it away.

  • Reply Paco Segarra April 24, 2016 at 11:34 pm

    Always thank you. Superior, insuperable, the real Word of God, in you. Love and happiness for you.

  • Reply Sebastian April 25, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    SUMMARY – Openness (Why it is Crucial to Be Open) – Teal Swan

    Being open allows source fully expression through you without restricitons

    when you dont follow your emotional guidance system this is painful
    openness feels good instead

    openness vs. constriction

    constrictions
    keeping secrets, turning ourselves down to be accepted, doing things we dont want to do, closed minded not being open to new ideas and possiblities, not being honest, not sharing, isolating ourselves, seeing love in finite quantity, not admiting and going after our needs and wants, not expressing our emotions, fiting ourselves into a life dictated by society and much more…

    emotions and body suffers from constrictions expecially the lungs and heart

    we fear exposure and being ourselves
    most people choose to close ourselves down, to be invisible, hide

    universe is all inclusive, all one
    everything you experience is not yours but everyones

    people with great fear of expressing themselves were raised in a heave atmosphere of shame
    they are ashamed of being themselves cause they were convinced that they should be

    nothing anyone can do to us can cause us the pain that we feel constricting our own being

    an arrow can only pierce into something that resists it
    if we constrict ourselves we are resitant to what we fear and they can hurt us
    if we are open nothing can hurt us, we are like water

    to achieve self awareness we need to express ourselves fully
    to learn from one another we need to express ourselves

    Who decided what was tastefull and what untastefule?
    The idea to restrict yourself comes directly from self hate

    we have all time during the day the chose to be open or closed
    ask yourself: How am I restricting myself or let myself be restricted?
    make the necessary changes to be open

    to restrict yourself or anyone else means to restrict the flow of source energy through your body

    commit to openness in order to live a spiritual life with happiness

    Thanks Teal

  • Reply Js11 Lowen April 26, 2016 at 6:10 am

    this is incredible, I watch this video so many times, and every time I understand more and more ❤️

  • Reply Js11 Lowen April 26, 2016 at 6:11 am

    this is incredible, I watch this video so many times, and every time I understand more and more ❤️

  • Reply Sunflower May 1, 2016 at 10:59 am

    This is perfect for me. I realised a while Ago how Amazing Openess was in my Life. It kinda saved me from plenty more Abuse. I am Free. x. Love you.

    please make more videos clarifying the downfalls of Ego…really trying to understand, i still have a belief that giving you Kids Everything they 'Want' raises Spoilt kids. very hard for me to really take in all your teachings because of this belief. x

  • Reply Sunflower May 1, 2016 at 11:11 am

    This approach is so Different to any other spirituality I have found. I Love it and Resonate with it so much. Thank you Teal. I just want to be a part of this movement, and anything related too it as soon as possible.

  • Reply sarah perry May 6, 2016 at 2:51 pm

    Love it, my first Teal video ever.

  • Reply m k May 9, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    Thank you so much. I've been told throughout my life to shut up who I am, now I know there is a better way of living and I have to admit: I LIKE GIRLS AND ANIMALS AND WATER. I do not fit the mold, but it's okay, because it is me and I love who I am 🙂

  • Reply john kennedy June 9, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    thank you and I`m having a really good weak…..that is not a spelling mistake

  • Reply Crystal C July 29, 2016 at 2:02 am

    In my head I'm too open, but in reality I'm too constricted… I can't wait for the next video!

  • Reply Csilla Béry November 8, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    I get into a kind of a state of mind after or during these videos that I thought doesn't exist anymore. Hope my english was good. 🙂 They hit the target… no, YOU hit the target. I'm in the beginning and I'm afraid. Blessings!

  • Reply Mkgin22 November 17, 2016 at 10:50 am

    Thank you Teal, I needed this insights and they are very very helpfull

  • Reply Maria Sheppard December 2, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Thank you Teal!!! ❤

  • Reply Jenn Hall December 9, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Thank you Teal! I am still working on feeling comfortable expressing myself. I have felt like something within me is "blocked". Maybe I just need to let go of this idea of constriction as a way to feel safe and let go and be open. <3

  • Reply Anything I know December 21, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    if i could i would subscribe 10000000 times

  • Reply CHiiQ December 25, 2016 at 4:36 pm

    wowwww. that was truly enlightening. that constriction!

  • Reply allil87 February 8, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    Thank you Teal✨💎✨

  • Reply GirlsLikeFairies February 14, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Why were Religions made the way they were in the first place? Like ofc they have got some meaningful stuff too.. and their texts and scriptures are vibrationally high and those sounds also have the quick fix healing effect. But why did it have to have all these negative and constricted beliefs too? Like being afraid from God n all.. and all those suffocating teachings?

    The new world won't have any religion but direct guidance from the spirit self. People won't need one set of rules to create world order. Everyone would know how their mind functions and why they're here on earth. So life will be a blissful experience. But when the hell will this happen? I wish I could live in a world like that right now!

  • Reply harold patrick March 13, 2017 at 2:12 am

    There is one absolute gem in this and that is…

    "People who fear exposing themselves without exception were raised in environments where there was a heavy atmosphere of shame. It would be impossible to be embarrassed if you are not first ashamed of being yourself. (A) person does not become ashamed of being themselves unless they are exposed to someone who convinces them that they should be" Teal

    I have already quoted you and, if you agree, will continue to quote you on this one.
    Thank you, love the way you put things…. clear and simple.

  • Reply Alex Bertell March 15, 2017 at 9:38 am

    Namaste🤗

  • Reply Bringer Of Light April 5, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    Teal, one of my favorite colors, is at her best here reverberating the song of my own heart 🙂

  • Reply Wanda Stone April 15, 2017 at 3:33 pm

    what song do you use in your opening? its so pretty , is there a full song?

  • Reply James Wilkins April 20, 2017 at 2:43 am

    Here on YouTube, Watch the video titled "Dear spinning ball earth believer" it was uploaded by Eric Dubay.

  • Reply Susie B May 10, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    Thank You sweet Teal

  • Reply Xristina Kapetanidou May 19, 2017 at 1:23 pm

    is that an indian oufit and make up? 😊

  • Reply loverlei79 May 29, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    so beautiful

  • Reply Zexion Akatsuki June 12, 2017 at 8:05 am

    Thank you for helping not doubt my self an being open thank u sister much love an light

  • Reply Kimberly McCracken July 2, 2017 at 12:03 am

    Feeling soooooo constricted. Not my usual way of being. Feels HORRIBLE!

  • Reply Kaaren Remley July 4, 2017 at 3:29 am

    perfect. this is absolutely what I needed to hear when I was in my twenties. sigh…

  • Reply Mark Stacey September 27, 2017 at 12:03 am

    Thank you kindly

  • Reply Radhika Prasad October 27, 2017 at 1:52 am

    Narscisism is very poorly understood. Especially covert narscisism. Please do some videos on this personality disorder. Overt narscisist are visible..not covert ones. Please talk more about this…so people can see the red flags.

  • Reply Lotuseyed Tarot November 6, 2017 at 7:52 pm

    Omg this is heartbreaking and so true.

  • Reply Shana Wyatt November 9, 2017 at 3:34 am

    I just don't think that a lot of things is really anybody's business. And there can been such a thing as "Sharing too much information."
    To understand that not everybody is going to accept a lot of things in a mature fashion, is to have a little bit more consideration / compassion for ourselves.

  • Reply Robert Russell November 14, 2017 at 10:59 am

    makes sense

  • Reply Discoteque77 November 30, 2017 at 8:08 am

    This message should be provided to every person at the very moment they come into this life.

  • Reply Captainmfitness December 7, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    nobody has helped me in my life more than teal , shes awesome!

  • Reply Raven Blakely December 17, 2017 at 5:38 am

    Love you then love you now, thanks for your help Ami want to be myself

  • Reply suan myhre December 26, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    I love your video's and the colorful backgrounds are so pretty. Thanks!!!

  • Reply Rainbow Sam January 2, 2018 at 1:12 pm

    It is crucial to be open so people like her can get into you. YW

  • Reply Hege Merete Møller January 15, 2018 at 5:24 pm

    You can be blocked but still have the opportunity to stay in the I am and here and now, intelligence, love etc etc…or?

  • Reply Sunflower January 16, 2018 at 2:23 pm

    Openess, Makes you Happy.

  • Reply Sunflower January 16, 2018 at 2:24 pm

    How can you have True friends, and Really Love yourself, if you are not Open?.

  • Reply Sunflower January 16, 2018 at 2:49 pm

    This is very similar to the False self vs Real Self video x. Helpful.

  • Reply SaraK January 17, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    Liking the video at the intro because i know it's gonna be good

  • Reply Lumos January 29, 2018 at 7:18 am

    you really blew my wig with this one… (jk i don't wear a wig) thank you, i love you ♥

  • Reply Pam Bennett March 21, 2018 at 5:25 pm

    Beautiful

  • Reply Amarjit Singh May 10, 2018 at 3:44 pm

    This is enlightened person speaking. Each word is valuable. Thanks for spreading truth

  • Reply Johanna May 18, 2018 at 6:50 pm

    This video brought me to tears. It explains for me so clearly why I’ve suffered so much these years, why I’ve become like this, why I can’t let anyone in and why I today am suicidal.
    Thank you for enlighten me Teal, for making me realize that there’s nothing wrong with me for feeling this way – but that it’s valid.

  • Reply Andrea mcgehee June 9, 2018 at 1:54 pm

    Teal you are so right

  • Reply simone bae June 10, 2018 at 6:40 am

    Love the outfit

  • Reply Gloria July 19, 2018 at 3:06 pm

    U ANSWER THE VERY QUESTIONS I DIDNT KNOW I WAS SUPPOSED TO ASK

  • Reply william atkinson July 21, 2018 at 4:07 am

    Whats best way to meet other male narcisstic abuse victims in england?

  • Reply Ankul Upreti July 24, 2018 at 10:50 am

    Guru. Much respect.

  • Reply Thao August 1, 2018 at 9:14 am

    Thanks Teal

  • Reply New wine & New creature August 1, 2018 at 9:53 pm

    This may explain my panic attacks at night or anytime I'm trying to sleep.

  • Reply Shaun Tatham August 4, 2018 at 5:40 am

    So glad I.ve always been open…Yes certain people had taken advantage of this ….but someone who is open does love themselves♥️♥️it's great to be free..

  • Reply Chris Mazuras August 5, 2018 at 7:21 pm

    Another great video thank you 🙂

  • Reply Auroraborealis August 25, 2018 at 1:22 pm

    Feel like Scotland is so closed off the self hate is real. Bring on the self love, starting with me.

  • Reply phoenix personified August 30, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    You are looking very beautiful in this video!

  • Reply wim lammens August 31, 2018 at 8:27 pm

    wauw, wonderfull

  • Reply Shay Gazdziak-Young September 24, 2018 at 8:01 pm

    I wish I could just spend All day listening to your videos Teal Swan..I'm just blown away…your videos are Exactly what I need in my life

  • Reply Thevoiceof fred October 18, 2018 at 7:33 pm

    “You are the love of your life, you just don’t know it yet.“ Wow Teal…

  • Reply Christine Aldret November 5, 2018 at 8:19 pm

    Give us your own definition of politeness, Teal. There is us, from one hand, and the others , on the other hand. During all my life, How can I be me if I only think about my own little well being and self esteem? After all, we are living in a society. So …And the others ? Do they still exist if I follow you ?

  • Reply Margarita Simpson November 12, 2018 at 5:36 pm

    True, I blacked my self because I was scared,but I’m questioning everything and I always know that we’re Connect it,I can feel it ,I’m trying to be o the Present, I’m always flying o way but I’m working on it

  • Reply Paul Denet November 29, 2018 at 8:54 pm

    She put a dot on her forehead

  • Reply Chleo Patra December 5, 2018 at 6:37 pm

    This was perfect and beautiful, thank you

  • Reply EMERIE Mugiraneza December 14, 2018 at 3:26 am

    Lovely mom🥰😍thank you for your advice 🥰and your time🙏

  • Reply Raymond Patrick January 6, 2019 at 6:10 am

    Teal Swan have you given up the new age religion? I hope so. Its demonic possession and the religion of the new world order.

  • Reply Jon Dough January 26, 2019 at 12:38 am

    Narcissists are self loathing sadists nothing to do with self love

  • Reply David Gustavsson January 29, 2019 at 3:32 pm

    Moving which helps me finish another issue, I probably new all along what it took go with the Flow. Needed to have Faith that when I went out on a limb that everything was going to be OK

  • Reply glamgurl February 10, 2019 at 1:09 am

    gosh you look so beautiful in the sari(..?) you're wearing!!😍 your bindi should have been a little bigger! and also great video!

  • Reply Dhanashri gundecha February 14, 2019 at 5:27 pm

    Plz teal swan help me

  • Reply Jyotsna Chaturvedi April 7, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    I love your Indian attire

  • Reply Victoria King April 9, 2019 at 10:37 pm

    I wish i found you sooner. Is divine timing really a thing?

  • Reply Victoria King April 9, 2019 at 10:50 pm

    Tytyty for saying things i could never figure out.for myself. And for continuing.to say these things in ways no one else ever could. I am eternally grateful and after my studies with you i know i will transform completely.

  • Reply Jocelyn moo April 11, 2019 at 4:23 am

    I had to pause and say how perfect and beautiful you are teal especially to me ♥️

  • Reply Jocelyn moo April 11, 2019 at 4:46 am

    Teal there aren’t words to express my gratitude for you. I learn so much about myself and what I’ve been through and what I go through.. you have the answer and the practice for me you are my beautiful blessing I appreciate, admire and enjoy this ♥️ My expansion with you

  • Reply Ashley Mills May 4, 2019 at 6:31 am

    Does teal have a video on conscientiousness? Or the other "Big Five" traits? We need those too.

  • Reply Leopard-King May 21, 2019 at 12:31 am

    We break on our conception of God, but you have done justice to this term. Openness is a function of fearlessness. It has been too long associated with warmth and tenderness. I do not say these traits are in incompatible. In fact, they go together quite well. Yet openness is not always a peaceful or sweet revelation. Sometimes openness can be socially unacceptable hang ups. It can be resentment. It can be aggression. Openness is an unwillingness to hide.

    This is why I held back on the Ayesha Curry backlash. I don't always want to play spoiler. Sometimes I simply choose to forebear. However her openness at the Red Table is very fitting to our discussion. There is no such thing as a WRONG FEELING. Ayesha Curry was not saying what was appropriate or inappropriate. She was not teaching manners. She was not modeling behavior for anyone. She let us into her emotional life and we excoriated her for it. We made her to be an ungrateful fool. There is this specious notion that if you do the right things, you will have the right feelings. In other words, if you feed the homeless, you will love them. That does happen. You know what else happens? Sometimes you are repulsed by them. Now if you were to admit that, you would be scolded into more community service to cure your "wrong feeling." Ayesha Curry did the sensible thing in marrying a responsible, super successful, pro-athlete that she loves and loves her. So this should MAKE HER have "sensible" feelings. I am sure the majority of her feelings are good and reasonable. Yet feelings are like dreams in that they are never directly connected to the thing you think they are connected to.

    I am no telepathic act, but I suspect her need to feel sexually desired outside her marriage is really a desire not to be an adjunct. She came into public awareness through her husband and so all her accomplishments can feel like it is being put on Stephan's Curry's running tab. If another man looks upon her and desires her, that can not be attributed to him. That is the one primal thing that belongs to her. This seems like a desire for a separate acknowledgement. Not a break from her husband romantically, but perceptually. The romantic tie to her husband has given her many beautiful things, but it has also made her appendix to her husband. It's funny how we understand this with men. Men are teased for having a more powerful woman in a relationship. Whoever marries Taylor Swift will be humiliated as Mr. Swift if he is not famous. We get it with men, but when women feel like not being in their spouses shadow, they need to shut up and appreciate their situation.

    Remember feelings don't ever equal any specific action. We just assumed infidelity is afoot because of a feeling. For example, I can be mad at you Teal and civilly talk it out with you, or I can try to sabotage your image. The choice to reconcile or to sabotage is never a direct result of a feeling. We unfairly judged her for an action SHE DID NOT COMMIT! Good video.

  • Reply strohberg June 24, 2019 at 9:32 am

    Resistance is futile.

  • Reply Katherina Ivanova June 29, 2019 at 6:28 pm

    Word of relief

  • Reply All Roads Lead Here July 7, 2019 at 1:27 am

    I'm open. I've got nothing to live for.

  • Reply Minh Quang Nguyen July 13, 2019 at 4:28 am

    This video speaks my heart. As a gay man, I've suppressed myself a lot which makes me feel completely unhappy. But now I'm more open about my sexuality, which makes life easier although there's discrimination around. Thank you, Teal.

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