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Is It Bad if Two People With Mental Illness Fall in Love? | Kati Morton

December 27, 2019


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  • Reply Mooose Gal September 26, 2019 at 1:21 pm

    Thanks for answering my question.

  • Reply Scott Shill November 7, 2019 at 8:19 am

    I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder and Anxiety, my wife also suffers from the same thing plus OCD. On top of this, we both also suffer from debilitating physical illnesses. Both of our families have a long history of mental illness, so we know it's hereditary as well.

    Is it tough? Yeah but marriage is tough. We knew getting into it there were going to be challenges. No ignorance about it.

    We met online. The first time we spoke on the phone she did something I've never heard of anyone doing before. In essence she said, "Look, I like you and I want to get to know you better and see where this goes. But there are a few things you need to know." She went into all of her mental illnesses and how her highs and lows are. She ended up by saying (paraphrasing), "I have a 4 year old and I won't put him in a situation that's not stable. If you don't think you can handle all of this, tell me now. Don't waste my time or invest in something you aren't willingly going to take on. It's not fair to either one of us." Yeah, she's pretty kick-a**.

    We'll be married for 9 years in December. Yes, we've had our ups and downs. We've had our successes and our learning opportunities. But we've figured out how to make it work.

    It's a lot to get into but If anyone has any questions, I'm happy to elaborate.

  • Reply Wyatt Batty November 11, 2019 at 4:42 pm

    I usually only comment to talk shit about videos and do so with more detail but, I just had to comment and say that I love love love this video!

  • Reply Amy Forbes-Richardson November 12, 2019 at 2:36 am

    ASD isn't a mental illness…

  • Reply georgeo limn November 13, 2019 at 4:34 am

    Q: What if, say, your military service left you unable to interact with a vast majority of people? Say your illness is such that it is something you have to manage daily and makes it difficult to have any meaningful relationship with someone who can relate? It seems like that kind of dichotomy would lead to unhealthy or co-dependence? Asking for a friend…..

  • Reply Amanda Franco November 20, 2019 at 4:03 am

    me and my boyfriend both have different struggles with mental illness… last week we got into a minor argument based on a misunderstanding (we resolved it quickly though through effectively communicating about it). The following week we then both talked about it at therapy hahaha, and now we’re able to laugh about it! it’s not impossible to have a healthy relationship with mental illness involved !

  • Reply Upcycle.Outdoorsman November 23, 2019 at 12:58 am

    "We" (Kati, are you trying to tell me something?) Who are these 'we' people. You sound like a self professed member of we. LOL.

  • Reply Hordur Valsson November 27, 2019 at 9:44 pm

    BPD and it’s sibling borderline, do not exist. This is a superficial label created to short cut the path to real recovery, aka. as far as we have come so far. Stop being a victim in the course of months or few years and it will go away. Ever met anyone with these two diagnosis that wasn’t neurotic and apologetic as fuck when down? Depression is unfulfilled potential or a quite life of desperation to please. Mania is when people break out of it and dare to be confident. The same with borderline. Pleasers get trampled on, they eventually have enough and burst out in anger, only to make the mistake of apologizing later on and fall back into pussy mode. Grow a pair, stop giving a fuck and start giving the world the finger some more! We aren’t increasingly mentally ill because more people seek help, it’s because more and more refuse to take ownership of their own mind, feelings, past, body, spirit and life.

  • Reply CammedArchive December 6, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    Dear Kati,

    I am very tired and fed up with being surrounded only by "normal thinkers" who I can't relate to at all. I want very much to be in a romantic relationship, but one with a woman I can actually relate to & understand, who's company I genuinely appreciate; and, of course, who relates to, understands, and genuinely appreciates me.

    What can I do to increase the amount of meaningful encounters I have with "mentally ill" people, and specifically people with my particular brand of "mental illness"? (That's not a label I believe to be accurate, BTW).

  • Reply Vika B December 14, 2019 at 6:55 am

    Wait since when is autism a mental illness? Especially one you can cover from?

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